HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY INDIA

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15 august 2017, the whole nation is going to celebrate 71th Independence Day of the country. But does it make sense to celebrate this day? Are we really independent? Is India has got its independence?

Nirbhaya Rape Case: 16 December 2012 the day which is unforgettable, the day that shook our nation. 5th may 2017, our honorable judiciary system finally gave justice to the victim. It took almost 4 years to take the decision. Too many rape cases were filed after Nirbhaya case all across the nation. Recently, a minor girl was brutally raped in Himachal Pradesh, justice is undue.

We live in a country where even a little girl is not safe. A woman can’t walk alone after evening or even in day. If she does that she has to fight with those stalking eyes, with those negative comments and if things goes wrong she is responsible for that.

There are too many cases of domestic violence which are not filed at any police station. Many women are mentally tortured by her in laws and much by society and take no action against them.

All thanks to our society and our respected system, our laws that doesn’t scare people who do such things. People know that if they do such poor thing what can happen to them and irony is that result doesn’t scare them so they are not afraid to rape a girl, to stalk a girl or to torture her even after getting marry with her.

Women tolerate these things because she herself knows that if she raises her voice she has to suffer. It will take too long to our judiciary system to give her justice, till then society will make every possible thing to make her life miserable.

If she dies the whole nation will be with her , people will come on roads with candle, holding banners so she can get justice , youth will put black dp on their social media accounts . But alive she has to fight alone.

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True independence is way too long.

Happy Independence Day India

 

 

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Say Hello to August! 

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The month of August is bunch of festivals or i say this month is box of happiness & joy. Friendship Day & Rakshabandhan are on their way. Let’s celebrate these two bundles of joy in a different but beautiful way:

Friendship Day

It is on 6th of august. Try this few things to give a new touch to this special day-

  • Call a old friend, talk to him/her about each other’s life and strengthen your bond again. We are so busy in our lives that we have left our old friendship somewhere, but what is the best time other than friendship day to make your friend feel that they are special.
  • Plan a visit to those “friendship addas” where you have created those unforgettable moments. It is the time to live those moments again with your crazy buddies.
  • Forgive that person who used to be your friend, ask for apologies if it was your fault because sometimes friendship is more important than anything else.
  • Gift something to your parents and your spouse. They are your lifetime friends who are never going to leave you.

Celebrate this day in such a way that in remains in your memory and in your heart till next friendship day.

Rakshabandhan

This year rakshabandhan is on 7th august, a day after friendship day. Let’s give a special touch to this too-

Dear Girls – it is not necessary to take gift every time. This year gift something to your brother and surprise him.

Dear Boys- instead of promising your sister that you will protect her, make her capable to fight alone, boost her confidence and strength so that she can protect herself in any circumstances.

Tie a friendship band or a rakhi to tree and contribute to environment.

These are some few different touches you can give to this two special days to make them more special and memorable.

Happy August !

 

START TO LIVE FOR YOURSELF

Take a 5 minute break from your daily scheduled daily life and think about that 5 important things which you want to do for yourself before you die. Yes, only those 5 important things which include only you, which you want to, do for yourself while you are alive.

! Done!

What if you die today???

Your wishes will be remained in your wish list only having no chances of coming true. It could be possible that not everything u wishes can be completed in just a blink of seconds or at that very moment , but not everything take couple of years to be come true.

The famous quote “ live like it’s your last day’’ is true in every aspect and should be implemented by everybody. Take a break, break the barrier of your daily routine life and do that one particular thing which makes you happy and alive. Do it for yourself.

Death is certain, life is not. Live every bit of your life.

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Girls are Burden: The Fault in our System

Yes, you read it right. Girls are burden and will always. Before you start judging me, let you read this article fully. I have solid reason to prove my point. I am 24 year old girl belongs to a middle class family. I have 2 elder sisters and one younger brother. I am the most pampered and lovable kid of my family from childhood. Yes my family loves me more than my brother. There is nothing like gender inequality in my family. (I am truly blessed.)

In spite of this when I say Girls are burden it’s because of the rituals our society & system has set for the girl child and we the people who are following them blindly. Let we see the journey of a girl from the other side of the coin.

When a girl is born, the very first thing you will see the sadness in the eyes of everyone especially in the grand parents of the girl. Relatives will console to her parents wishing she were a boy. Time flies, she will be sent to school and college for education. If she wanted to get  education which demand more fees , again someone will come up with this “ why to spend so much money on education save it for her wedding “ ( itna paisa padhai pe kyu kharch kerna , iski shadi ke liye bachaiye )

While studying “study is secondary, learn cooking, stitching and other household work. It will be useful to her “(padhai wadhai chodo, ghar ka kaam seekho kaam aayega).If she is very good in her studies “what is the meaning of all these when ultimately she has to go someone else’s house and cook food” (in sabka kya matlab hai, sasural jake banana to ise khana hi hai)

*Note: these dialogues never come from her parents *

Now the very important part of her life for which she actually comes to this world is tag as a burden ‘Her marriage ’.The family starts to find a suitable boy .the rishta meeting will be organized. the girl and her family will be judged on various parameters her height , cooking skills , complexion , how much the girls family can spend on the wedding , how much they earned etc. some will ask questions and inspect everything about girl as they are going to give the key of their valuable treasure . if there is a little bit delay in her engagement and as well marriage she is questioned.

If the rishta fixed the lines by groom’s family “ your girl is ours now” some will say to girl’s parents that now you are free as your daughter is someone else’s responsibility now. Which is not true. A daughter is always responsibility of her parents even after marriage.

The wedding function is started. The engagement ceremony: it’s not only about ring, trust me. Bride’s family has to send clothes to the entire family of groom. It’s a ritual. In between engagement and wedding and after wedding too if any occasion comes like Diwali, holi again send some sweets and cloths stuffs to the groom’s family.it is also a ritual.

At wedding there are too many traditions and rituals. The bride’s family will spend more than their financial status thinking it is for their daughter’s better future and for social reputation too.The very strange rasam I have ever came across is whenever any lady from girl’s family goes to boy’s house she has to touch feets of every other lady of boy’s side and has to give some kind of shagun to them. (Pagalagayi)

The tradition that daughter’s first delivery should be in her Mayka. The girl’s family will went to her sasural to taker her with home. Again give the cloths and sweet stuffs and take the girl to your home. After 2 to 3 months, the new mother and baby will go to their home. Send again some cloths and sweet stuff with them for the entire sasural family of new mother.

If someone died in the girl’s house. go with cloths to her sasural. Whenever your daughter and your son in law come to your house give them shagun. If you ever go to meet your daughter at her sasural or go to attend some function at her sasural u cannot go empty hands. The Mayra rasam where the girls family have to spend very good amount of money on their grandchildren’s wedding.

The girl’s parents can never take a step back from their responsibilities till they are alive and after them it is transferred to the brother of the girl.so basically on the basis of the rituals which are ultimately set by us, followed by us the girl seems to be a burden on their family.

I don’t know if all the rituals set by us and the society are right or not. If they are wrong than how to change it and will it be changed ever or not, I just don’t know. But the change is required that I am assured.

Note: I am not pointing at anyone. Not at society, not at particular section of the society and not at the people who are following all these. I have seen these things in my surroundings and felt that it is the fault in our system.